"That's just the way it is..."

I heard these words a lot when I was a teen, from my step dad. I hated it. There was no explanation, no alternatives, no thinking outside the box. There was only one perspective to see things from and nothing else was ever considered. Now I am very nearly thirty years old and I am hearing it again.
Why? Why are things the way they are? Why can't they change? Why must I conform to what they tell me is true? Why can't i do things differently? Why should I accept another persons para digm as my own when I can see things differently from them?
Are they afraid that I might do better than they? The problem is that the contradict one another. I receive encouragement from one small group of people and extreme discouragement from the rest of the world.
My world view is different, I want to do things differently. I have never been a proponent of normal. For example on my wedding day: I went to McDonald's for breakfast; we had the reception before the ceremony, a lunch of Subway sandwiches; and cake, ice cream, and gifts afterward. Everything was done by 4p.m. And the night before, at our rehearsal dinner, we had pizza and soda at the church.
So you see, I am not one for doing what everyone else does. I may be a sheep in many other ways, but I am willing to go another route even when the rest of the flock says, "that's baaad."